At times, you might view your life as a series of bitter lies, yet you accept them as if they were sweet candy. You may be scratching your head, wondering, “What lies is she talking about?”

Learning about these lies transformed my perspective on life.

Do these lies include losing belongings? Yes.

Do they mean I have to lose people? A damn yes.

Will my life turn into chaos as a result? An absolute no.

Before we dive into how to eliminate these toxins from your life, let’s examine some of the temporary lies that can shape our perceptions.

The Perceiving Heart

You view the world through your mind: you recognise and name what you see.

However, understanding is the heart’s role. Your emotions create a layer of temporary lies in your perception. How do your feelings affect the way you see a tree, a flower pot, a portrait, a friend, or even the sky when you’re happy versus when you’re sad?

These emotions can both illuminate and obscure your surroundings.

The Sticky Expectations

We all hold expectations about the people we cherish, the job interviews that leave us panicked, and even the florist selling flowers. Despite any denial, a closer look reveals that these expectations can create layers of temporary lies.

Some expectations can bring immense joy, while others can reflect with pain. A very common piece of advice I hear almost daily in my life is, “Don’t expect anything.”

But from my viewpoint, “expecting” is essential. By doing so, you uncover and address your feelings in various situations.

Of course, when things don’t go your way, and instead took turns, it can hurt. However, true self-healing and self-acceptance start with engaging fully in every part of your life.

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The Desire to be Forgotten

Many of us wish to disappear from certain people or situations due to discomfort. This desire is a temporary lie born out of unease. You see, I often feel the desire to be forgotten by everyone. The florist I met, the stranger who crossed without noticing my presence, the dog that growled at me, a cat that hissed and ran, and an old lady who hugged me without any invitation.

At times, you might build a protective layer around yourself, desperately seeking to escape from the past.

For instance, a moment when you get embarassed of yourself, when the relationship isn’t mutual, and when you’re ignored from the conversation.

Those times your heart shouts, “Man, I desire to be forgotten.” Though you knew the answer, “What’s done cannot be undone,” still you hope for it. Am I right?

Embracing Temporary Lies

Remember, temporary lies can bring both happiness and distress. The journey of self-acceptance is woven with these lies. The narratives you tell yourself, the expectations you hold, and your perceptions of the world are all within your control.

Just like in “The Courage to be Disliked”, you possess the power to decide your life.

Again, as a bonus, this poem is for you. And, I ain’t a pro at writing one.

Trying is the best thing at,

Testing patience along the way.

Failure is the best thing at

Better than surrendering to dismay.

Temporary lies can open doors,

Allowing entry to your heart,

In this world, you may feel chained,

But you can always choose to restart.

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“Class, checked. Writing, checked. Doing nothing, checked.”

I would spend time wondering, “Then, what am I missing?”

I did drawing, reading books, writing stories, and doing things that ease my thought process. In a week, 2 days, I feel great; the remaining days will pass with a thought, “What am I missing?”

Do you often feel the same? You may do everything on your planned or unplanned schedule, but end there.

My mom always used to say, “Life has a purpose, whatever you do. It’s like a threat that’s connecting what you’re destined to. In the process, you often feel down. Sometimes, though you’re moving on, something deep inside feels empty. In those moments, if you have a better understanding of yourself, you will find the answer.”

When she told me, I had no idea what she was speaking about. Because their never arisen a situation where I will feel empty.

Since I was a kid, I’ve been happy with what I have. My life was simple.

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Now, the game is different.

“I often drift away. The responsibility of becoming an adult is quite challenging. I was much like a person who was asked to move without knowing the way. While I turn and look at my sides, people at my age are moving with something to hold. Though I try to move, the fear inside me pins me down. Every time I try something, fear takes control of me without my permission.”

But slowly, I began to understand what she meant.

These kinds of thoughts keep screaming in my dreams. I had had enough, and that was the time I began to understand life.

“The trees, the stars, the water, the land, everything has some pros and cons in it. They have a certain purpose. Look at your mom, dad, sibling, or even a stranger. Everyone has some unfinished parts. But, it doesn’t mean they aren’t achieving in my life.”

I used to hear, “The more you age, the more likely you are to enjoy simple things.”

Just like that, it took me more than 3 years to understand my grounding. We, people, love hearing compliments.

Imagine, during the time you heard many compliments. You will be happy, right? But one negative command can destroy your self-esteem, and make you think low of yourself.

100 compliments can be destroyed with a single negative comment.

In those times, remember to look at your past moments. And, have a small conversation with a friend whom you last touched.

There’s nothing wrong with taking the first initiative.

Who knows, this could be your sign to call them.

That’s when I understood my mom’s words. Growing bigger, we are all still children. We need someone who feels at home. They are the long-lasting friends and families.

The moments you feel empty, have the conversation with them. Trust me, you will find that your heart has filled that space.

As a bonus, this poem is for you. And, I ain’t a pro at writing one.

The missed puzzle,

The unpainted canvas.

Lingers in my mind,

and pains my heart.

To be felt,

Saved me from disappearing,

~ My saviours.

If this resonated with you, send it to the heart. Which often feels void. Because, at the end of the day, every heart whispers, “I Cares Tooo.”

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We are aware of everything around us. But when you move closer, hidden parts pop out of nowhere. The deeper you explore, the more you learn. So, you’re not aware of anything in life.

The more we think we know, the more we don’t know. (Have you heard that before?) Everyone has a hidden part, even if they aren’t aware of it.

And, yeah, you guessed it right. Why do the hidden parts always bring surprise moments as well as some painful memories?

You’re not an embarrassing person:

Reaching adolescence flipped my life. During that period in my life, there was no one on my side to say, “You will go through so many hormonal challenges, and it’s okay. You may feel different, and it’s okay. You may feel like being embarrassed over nothing, and it’s totally okay.”

I often wonder if someone had said that to me, I would have been a different person. I wouldn’t have felt less about myself when I felt uncomfortable in certain situations. I wouldn’t have felt stupid when things didn’t go my way. And, I wouldn’t have hated myself for thinking of me as a loser.

So, remember. You’re not an embarrassing or stupid kinda person. You think and act wisely. You believe in yourself. And, it’s totally great that you accept your flaws. Because nobody is perfect.

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You are not hurting others:

One of our hidden parts, and a common trait. We choose to give our heart to a person who earned our trust. We feel betrayed, and the hate blooms when that trust is shattered into pieces.

So, we build a wall. Protecting ourselves from going through the same phase. We’re afraid to go through the same bitter pain.

And remember. You’re not hurting others, nor are you hurting yourself. And, yes, of course, there are souls which hurts intentionally. But don’t ever give up giving your heart just because of what happened in the past.

Life has got every part. To live is to go through each part. Yes, while some part ends with happiness, others end with misery. Yes, while some give comfort, other makes you feel less.

And that one part inside you has the power to figure out everything. Every part is made of you.

You’re not a shallow vessel:

One of my friends, when she is with me, speaks of many things. And, I love listening to her perspectives. So, when I asked her to say the exact thing to the group of people. She hesitated and never said anything.

When I asked her, “Why did you do that?”

She fidgeted, “I know less, but they knew everything. I don’t want to make myself a shallow person.”

That related with my life, as well as others. At some point, though we are aware of certain topics, we refuse to say anything.

The reason, we don’t want to seem less. Let me ask you, who is looking down on you now? You or Them?

When I understood, I began to comprehend myself. When I did, slowly I began to change.

You’re not a shallow vessel, nor a withered flower. You’re blooming at your own pace. Time and life tests in you in different forms. So, be aware of yourself, and play the game differently.

Because, without learning the characters in a game, how could you play?

You may feel less or feel normal at the moment. Whatever you feel, this poem is for you, and I’m not a pro at writing one.

How can you stay afloat,

When you’re already,

drowning?

How can you save others,

When you failed to,

Save yourself?

How can you see others,

When you ignore,

Your presence?

How can you comfort others,

When you fail at healing,

Yourself?

How could you do it all,

When you’re afraid of,

Accepting yourself?

If this resonated with you, send it to the soul who deserves to hear these words. Because, at the end of the day, every heart whispers, “I Cares Tooo…”

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Note: Unlike my previous post, this one is quite long.

Dear community,

Happy news to share: we have hit 30 subscribers, and 138 followers joined us in this journey of finding. With you on my side, you helped me figure out my definition, and I hope I did the same for you. Cheers to you all.❤️

Life is so vastttt. Every day, when we encounter a new thing, we are all children. At every stage of life, I mean every year, every single day. We should all agree with the thought, “I’m a curious child, figuring out everything before me.”

All of the moments feel unprecedented. I bet you think the same.

In my twenties, I don’t know why I’m knocking out an opportunity that I’m not familiar with. I don’t know why I keep trying to swim when I have no idea how to swim.😶

This period of my life feels less motivational, quite tempting to dip my hands in everything, but at the same time, fear easily haunts me.

Trust me, I still feel the same often.

But here’s what I learned while figuring it out.

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You’re not falling behind, but uncovering a hidden part:

Recently, I applied for a job, and I don’t have any idea about the JD. All I did was, “Okay. At least let me try.” And, I got selected. It consists of 3 rounds. I hit all three, and my seeding of hope guaranteed that I would get the job.

But it came out negative. I didn’t get selected, and it woke up my overthinking. It took me a month to recover. Though I tried my best to distract from my rejection, somehow it found a way and pinned me down.

In that time, I understood. At least I’ve tried something new, not only about me, but also about what and where I’m interested in.

Dared to improve the confidence level:

I’m not an extrovert kinda person. When I tried figuring out something about me, like when I gave my first speech (almost cried off stage), when I got selected in the biggest competition (yet doubted myself), gathered the guts to speak out and help people find their greatest treasure through a newsletter (still figuring out whether I’m doing right or not).

And, much more. Just like me, you too have millions of tales. A tiny moment, where you want the whole world to end or the whole world to disappear. But when you look back. Of course, you have an embarrassing memory, but you dared your heart, and it guided you to improve your confidence level.

Finding out the cup of tea:

Cup of tea- Favorite thing.

In the process of finding out, we don’t stop, right? Instead, we would peek at everything in our way. That curiosity inside us led us to find our favorite thing. It may be a hobby.

That time, you will also acknowledge your likes and dislikes. That’s what people call shosin or Beginner’s mindset. Have you heard of that?

If you’re a parent, you must have heard about it. Because children aged 4-5 have this mindset. During that period of time, no rule can constrain you, nor will the fear of failure scare you.

Despite the constraints, we will find a way that catches our interest.

Just “Start” it:

You may be a photographer or a designer. You may like anything. Nowadays, it’s easy to share your ideas on the internet. Start a channel or a profile and share your likes in it. Remember, you will taste the fear of getting judged.

Just look at yourself in the mirror, and think who is judging you now. You or Them?

Starting something new takes courage, tests patience, and you need to understand. If you desire something, then you should dare to begin that.

Those who are lost, are never truly lost:

When you’re trying to figure out something beyond your knowledge or capacity. You’re not getting lost in a dense forest. Instead, you’re finding a path.

Vera Wang- an American Fashion designer known for her elegant wedding dresses. She began her career as a figure skater and later became a fashion designer.

So, nobody is lost. Everyone is searching for something that warms their heart.🌟

There is beauty in the art of figuring out. You hold a power, the audacity to do even if you fail miserably. The thing to note is, never stop after you have tasted failure.

This poem is for you, and I’m not a pro at writing one.

Wild birds migrate,

Seeing them fly,

Domestic birds,

Try to flap their wings.

Gather dust as a company.

No matter how they fall.

They still try to give it all,

And, meet the sky.

And, if you’re in figuring out phase, then congrats. If this post resonated with you, send it to the person who is trying so hard to find his/ her likes. Because at the end of the day, every heart whispers, “I Cares Tooo.”

It led me to land on my first internship, a totally new environment with lots of hanging doubts. Still, I geared up to move on. The experience, the pitfalls, everything was great.

And, after the completion of the internship, I volunteered to be a managing host for an event (I was forced to, literally blackmailed by a friend😅)

In those times, while walking to the canteen, attending classes, and doing work. I was totally proud of myself and patted my back with a sigh, “Whoa… I’m growing.”

I thought everything was moving great. Until the moment hits off. My brain got fully sucked out. As a result, I wasn’t able to do anything for the next six months.

Whenever I was given a task, I gave some excuses. It began to reduce the opportunities that I was receiving.

What I built for 2 years in my college began to fall in six months. During that period, I was completely lost.

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I began to blame myself and get irritated with everyone around me. And that new part of me is something I didn’t even expect(Even I get scared over me😱).

You may wonder, college kids don’t feel depression- Parents thought.

Man, I fell into it. And, the person who saved me is a small phrase I received, “Mental exhaustion isn’t laziness. Your brain is alarming you to take rest.”

I was like, “What? Are you serious?”

And, yep. That’s true.

So, how can I get over that?

Here’s what I did:

For a month, I focused on

• Practicing self-talk,

• Meditation,

• Exercise, and

• My favorite part: listening to the healing sounds of nature(I loved that since I was a kid).

That actually worked. Because it made me focus on one single thing, which I failed to do in the past. Usually, I put others over me and get stuck with my work. So, these things helped me reflect on who I am and why I am doing it.

Almost 94% of the participants in a survey stated that they are suffering from both physical and mental fatigue. And, don’t take any action for it.

What I’m saying is, have you ever thought of working on why you feel stuck in the moment? Was it exhaustion or laziness?

If yes, then remember: it’s okay to feel that way. It means you’re actually learning and uncovering a new part inside you. For me, the hidden scary monster😅. (I don’t wanna show it to anyone.)

Never feel ashamed about it. We all have that moment. Take some time and reflect on yourself.

If this resonated with you, send it to the soul who thinks, “Ow…. my brain isn’t processing.” Because at the end of the day, every passing heart whispers, “I cares too.”

And, if you feel like hearing more, just subscribe to it!^^

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You see, almost whenever someone asks me, “Tell me about yourself,” or “I bet you can do this.”

I will be like, “What? Are you serious?” and for the introduction part, “Um… Hey, I’m… Blah blah…. that’s all about me.”

As the awkward silence fills the air, they would give me a look of that particular relative who always looks, “Oh.. damn. What was that?”

The point is, why did I have less confidence when people expect that I can do better? Why did I give up, even though I knew I had the potential?

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If you’re wondering just like me, then understand this:

“You’re not comparing; you just lack the awareness.”

Comparison- a stupid thing. I always hate it when my parents make comparisons, and one day my heart threw a question, “Then, why are you comparing yourself with others?” (That’s it, another sleepless night🥴)

What I mean is, you lack self-awareness. Spend time for yourself, have self-talk, write about what you feel. Studies state the mind can decode easily when the problem can be visually seen.

So, you’re comparing because you don’t know about your capability.

“A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms.” — Zen Shin

“You’re pressuring, because of what if I left behind?”

That’s totally normal. Most of the time, I pressure myself (But never giving up my sleep😅). Those times, I try my best by giving it my all. As my mind pressures, “You gotta do it. How can you be stupid?”

I would often make the output worse. So, what’s the point of trying to be perfect? The thing is to try, not doubt or give up.

Trust me, take one thing at a time, and this quote hit me hard.

Slowing down. Not to do less, but to do more of what feels right.- by .

On average, around 70% of people experience impostor syndrome in their lives. And, that’s totally okay.

As I decide to speak about it, I wanna give it my all. So, I will cover the remaining in the next part. Until then, sit in a quiet environment, take notes, and write what you feel about it. This really worked with me.

And, one more thing,

“Are you shutting yourself in the name of judgment, fear, and anxiety? If yes, think again.”

If this resonated with you, send it to those who deserve this message. Because at the end of the day, every heart whispers, “I cares too.”

At first, it was hard, but as the calendar began to flip, I began to see the beauty in the very thing that I was building.

Of course, I stumble and hit the bottom with a huge thud (And the pain still lingers in my memory😅). But every scar led me to understand something that I didn’t bother to see or something totally new to my side.

Thanks to everyone who chooses to pause in the rushing world to read my pieces. Every written piece is said from what I felt, and what I saw.

Your every like, and every word made me bring new messages to you.

Behind the screen:

There’s a soul that hits the publish button with self-doubt, who enjoys petit moments. A nod, a comment, a smile, a warm, “HEY!”

Here’s a quick overview of the community.

131 followers grabbed my boat.🛥️❤️

25 subscribers began to fill my voice with their colors.😊

Every word, every like made me write content that will help you to find your greatest treasure of being yourself.

This year, of course, it has thrown a huge atom bomb into my life. Not only me, but you too must have discovered from that funny guy inside you to the most serious one. Every moment has shaped you, and when you look back, all that remains is your memories.

Here’s a cheers to the next chapter. And, this time, no matter how hard you scream or how hard you fall, don’t ever give up on your dreams. Don’t create a barrier by calling, “I’ve aged, “I can’t.” Dream doesn’t care who you are; what it needs is how well you find yourself in the journey. ”

If you ever feel like self-doubt rising inside you. Remember me, “I cares tooo is started out of curiosity, out of doubts. But here I’m finding that my own voice began to shine in some souls around the world. If I can, then you too.”

Thank you for being with me on this journey.

Well, this poem is for you. Though I’m not a pro at writing one.

Tangled knots.

Chaotic mind.

A perfect pair.

Hit my life.

Throwing tantrums.

To uncover the greatest things.”

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“And, every time I do something poeple would say, “Don’t be selfish.” When all I did was eat a candy in by peaceful break. Seriously, I had enough that day.

And, when I tried to be “too selfish” like some claim for certain situations, they kept on nagging me like a bug, and I decided to brush off whatever they said.

Once I did, it was peaceful.”

We all have the habit of doing for others what someone seeks to be done. Because of others’ willingness to get things done, we are ready to sacrifice our time, which was ours alone.

Truth be told, on average, more than 90% of people choose to sacrifice even though they don’t want to. The question is why?

If I asked you, you would claim, “Umm.. Uh….” (Awkwardness won) Then we would brush off.

Of course, you gotta keep in check not to mix the personal and professional space with someone. Then, why are you sacrificing your time for them?

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Do you know the misery of giving up on the very thing you built with love, with eagerness?

Well, this is how you feel inside,

“Sometimes I drift away, when having a serious conversation, when walking on a peaceful stroll, while reading a book. Not because I wanted to, but the thoughts of hate, distress, pain, urged me to run off to the distant, dive deep into the ocean from the things that I didn’t build, but by the people in the name of blood wished me to.”

Yes, responsibilities come with a sacrifice, but it doesn’t have to take everybit of what you hold deeply.

You can be a mother, father, sister, brother, or friend. You can be anyone, but at the end of the day, it’s important to spend time for yourself. Because you need to understand the life’s biggest rule, self-care isn’t selfish.

Being selfish is okay. Be selfish to you.

This poem is for you, though I ain’t a pro at writing one.

Curtains of unspoken thoughts.

The mirage of diving in the deep ocean

Running in the endless loop.

Did you do it for yourself? or

For others?

If it resonated with you, send it to the person who deserves this message. Because at the end of every heart whispers, “I cares too.”

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Within a week or a month, that unknown desire needs results. If it doesn’t see the reward, it would throw a tantrum and send countless signals, urging us to give up on the thing that we worked without rest.

After a weaponless war inside us, our heart gets motivated and screams, “Just do it.’

This time, the results of our curve would go slightly up.

Does it mean your curve will be steep after this? No.

Every time we fall, it gives a lesson not to make the same mistake again.

I believe in manifestation. There’s this is what I heard.

“You desire and work on something. You give everything you want. But, at some point, you won’t be able to achieve it. But it doesn’t mean it’s over. But, the universe says, “you deserve more.” If you have patience, then you will get it. If you don’t, then you will get a different result.”

This is what the curve looks like.

The process takes time; you will get what you desire based on your input. That’s why most people claim, “Trust the process.”

When life gets you down, don’t worry. Someday, the page will turn. So, whatever you desire now, trust and believe in the process.

If you’re into reading books, then I recommend this one to you: “I decided to live as me.”

As a bonus, this poem is for, though I’m not a pro at writing one.

Stepping on the stairs,

Letting out a huge sigh,

Hoping to move forward.

While the heart panics,

I still choose to move.

Sometimes, the result is rewarding,

and sometimes it isn’t.

Making me comprehend,

“Not all the flowers,

bloom and fall the same.”

If it resonated with you, send it to that person who needs this message. Because at the end of the day, every heart whispers, “I cares too.”

“I want you to please be sure to trust what you believe in no matter what you encounter in the process.”

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Let me share a quick tale.

Trust me, you will love it.

Once, there was a boy named Robert, who adored the book that was given to him by his mother. Every day, when the sun goes to rest, his mother would read out the story.

As he was living in the mountains, he wanted to find the flower that was mentioned in the book. Once he was big enough to travel alone, he decided to set off on the journey of finding the flower.

So, he left a tiny note to his mother, “I will be back soon, mother.”

And then grabbed the bag, opened the door, and left. He walked miles and miles. On his way, he asked many people and even creatures, “Have you seen a flower that shines bright?” Despite a lot of no’s, he didn’t give up

Soon, it became weeks and a month. Though he travelled far, still he wasn’t able to find the flower.

After a long search, he gave up and walked home.

And, he never regretted giving up.

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So, how is the story? Why did he give up the journey of finding the flower?

Yes, you guessed it right. He learned that the flower is the people and the creatures he saw. Those people helped him to find his inner trait, guided him to unlock his many hidden doors.

We are all trying our best to find the flower (our true purpose), and failing to learn about our own likes and dislikes.

Of course, if I question you, “What do you like?”’ You will give a list of answers, and I would hit a trillion in that 😅

But, deep down, you don’t know what you truly love and why you’re doing certain things.

The question is, why are you searching yourself in others, why are you searching for happiness in others’ words? Of course, connecting with others is important. But, don’t ever forget to connect inward.

The beauty of connecting inward holds serenity, curiosity, love, hate, doubts, and millions of locked doors.

The thing is, we have no idea how to open the door, and this stops us. You should always remember this:

• Have that refreshing conversation with a friend.

• Remember to prioritize what matters to you.

• It’s always ok to say, “No.”

• Do what you like.

  Connecting with others is a way of connecting within you. Maybe it’s about dancing in the rain, maybe it’s about seeking the answers, maybe it’s about finding the greatest treasure that many may not dare to find.

  In the process of finding you, never lose yourself.

  

This bonus poem is for you. Though I’m not a pro at writing poems, this one is for you.

A mirror that reflects my actions,

Holding to everything that I do,

Though my heart urges me to,

Speak to the masked soul,

Somehow, I drift away,

To a foreign land,

Hoping to connect again.

If you loved it, send this post to someone who deserves this message. Because, at the end of the day, every heart whispers, “I cares too.”

Have a connecting week!

If you find this great. Just send it to the heart that deserves this message. Because, at the end of the day, every heart whispers, “I cares too.”

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Whatever you feel, take a break. Because, you deserve it.

Take a deep breath, listen to yourself, thank for what you have, and I bet you will feel different.

I’m not a pro at writing poems, but this one is for you^^

Running in the fields,

Barefoot, with an open heart.

Let the wind unravel my thoughts,

Let my feet choose the wild path.

Let dawn show me

The beauty of becoming her.

And let all the weight I once carried

May stay behind--

In the world, I no longer belong.

Have a good weekend!

To be honest and precise, I often overthink, get stressed over nothing, cry for the people who left me, and do everything that drains my energy. After a long time of being the same person, I decided to change myself. But, I don’t know how?

If you’re on my boat, these 5 methods will become your savior. (I’m sharing it after it created an impact in my life.)

Meditate(Yes, buddha mode on):

When you get stressed and panicked, you begin to overthink, right? If it were me, I would pray for the end of the world.😅

Studies say that “People who tend to meditate can get physical and psychological benefits. It helps them to reduce their anxiety, depression, and overthinking, and helps them to focus on their daily life.” (From VeryWell Mind)

So grab a mat, sit quietly, and focus on your breath. At first, it’s hard, but once you do, you will feel light. 😌

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Spend for the heart(Your wake-up call):❤️

By this, I mean spending time on building habits. Nowadays, most of us have a hobby. No matter how tired we get, at the end of the day, we will do what we like, whether it’s painting, dancing, singing, playing music, or anything.

When you do what makes you happy, you guessed it right. Yes, the brain releases dopamine, which makes you reduce stress, increase your self-esteem, and provide a sense of purpose and balance.

L or R(Sounds fancy, right?):

You know? “People who read can lower their stress level by 68% and listening to music makes you to reduce the stress level by 61%”

So, listen or read. If you love reading books, read, and if you don’t, at least try to listen to music or a podcast. If you have no idea about which podcasts to listen to or books to read. I will recommend some books that helped me.

Self-help:

Books:

• How to stop worrying and start living?

• The art of being alone.

• The art of not overthinking.

• I decided to live as me.

• Unfinished: A memoir

Podcast:

• The minimalists podcast.

If you’re into stories.

• The land of last gods- Mystery, thriller, suspense, Mythology.

• The lost bookshop- Mythology, suspense.

• The old man and the sea.

• Dead Poets Society.

These are some things I prefer, but you can choose based on your likes.

I will share the remaining two in next Friday’s newsletter. This free verse is for you, though I’m not a pro at writing poems.

Let you write your story,

Even if the path goes wrong,

Rise and carry on.

When times are tough,

Let your strength show.

This time,

Promise to build,

Commit to your growth.

Finally, the weekend is near. If you loved it, send it to the person who deserves this message. Because at the end of the day, every heart whispers, “I cares too.”

See you on Monday!

The result: We get blamed, ignored, and scolded.

And, more than that, like a bonus, we get mental pressure, fear of getting judged, fear of being ignored, and growing our inferiority complex.

That’s a great reward we get for being their person. 😅

In my life, every time I try to get out of being their puppet, I get the same result. So, what I learned is.

Their puppet = Being on my own = same result. Nothing changes.

But one thing can change: I can build confidence, I can shout for myself, I can write my own rules, and I can be my own person.

So, how can I stop myself from shaking my head to their request?

Well, let go of everything you have done in the past. Today, right now, make yourself a true promise: To reject people’s offers if you don’t want to. And here are a few examples(Why do people hesitate to say no?) where you can reject people without getting offended. Like a perfect negotiation, win-win on both sides.

Today, “Try to be different, because the result is always the same.”

Here’s a bonus poem for you, and forgive me because I’m not a pro at writing poems.

There lived a girl,

Who did for others’ will,

Their wants kept growing,

Yet she worked- Until,

One day, she whispered

I’m tired.

But the world turned deaf,

And made her work again.

Sometimes, the more you do as others say, the more their wants will grow, and you can’t refuse their offer when you’re the first one to grow their wants.

With that, bye, and see you in the next email.😉

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Crazy, right? Of course, I was in the same boat, afraid of what they would think if I did this or that.

That single thought killed me for ages, and it still sometimes does.

I know, you’re feeling the same when you try to get out of your comfort zone.

But, have you ever wondered? why do we panic?

This is what Google gave me: “People panic and strive for perfection due to underlying fear of judgment, shame, and self-doubt, often stemming from childhood experiences of trauma, neglect, or high expectations, which create a desperate need for control and validation by appearing perfect to avoid negative feelings or rejection.”

Well, I agree with that. But you may ask, how can I stop that thought? How can I control my mind so that it is okay to try? If you really want to improve, then I have simple methods.

Trust me, it really worked. And, I call that “SEVPMB.” Does it sound fancy? 😅

• Develop your Self-confidence. (Every time your mind screams to run off from the stage, hold on and just give the speech.)

• Enrich your Emotional Connection. (At least for once in a day, trust your instincts and guts, and try to be your best friend.")

• Appreciate a Simple Victory. (Shout out even if you got a one-view for your post.)

• Don’t try to be Miss or Mr. Perfect. (Even the drama you watch has many flaws. And that makes you enjoy the show. So, do that to your real life.)

• Stop Pressuring Your Mind. (You’re not a pressure cooker. While a pressure cooker can give you a good meal, it doesn’t work the same for you. The more you put pressure, the more you get confused.)

• Just Be in the Moment. (No matter your age. Try to live in the moment. I heard people say, “You’re 20, then you’re happy, you’re 40, then it’s near retirement age.” No one knows what you go through. So, choose the moment, and not the people.)

Some souls forget everything they just read here and keep worrying. (To me: Says the one who does the same.😂)

Here’s a bonus poem for you, though I’m not a pro at writing poems:

I pick up my courage,

And, with every step,

I take towards the stage,

My heart beats without a perfect rhythm,

My mind plays the game of chaos,

And I began to think,

The uncertainties.

But now I feel above the moon,

Just after saying what I always felt,

And now I appreciate my guts.

With that, bye, and see you in the next email. Don’t forget to share with the one who deserves this. Sometimes, a small gesture lights up one’s life. Because, at the end of the day, every heart whispers, “I cares too”

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Even if the past includes pain, betrayals, and sorrow, our heart yearns for the place that gave us a moment of happiness. Even if it meant to cause pain, we are ready to hold deeply in our hearts.

But sometimes letting go of the past makes you see the present. Of course, the process of letting go of our past causes pain, but once you decide to let go, then the page you’re turning will have a new chapter.

The fear of letting go:

When I question people, why do you hold onto your past? Well, the answer I get is, “No, I’m moving on.” Though people say with their mouths, still there’s our heart which whispers, “I don’t want to.”

Humans are the hard ones to decode when it comes to emotions. Well, look at the world. Out of 10 people you meet, every one of them will hold a beautiful memory, which makes them survive in the world of victims. Their past becomes their boon to survive the present.

The fear of facing the unknown:

When I began college, I was literally anxious about facing new people and a new environment. Though I got to meet amazing people who matched my vibe, and in those times, I still held onto my memories.

But now, when I think of my college days, that fear inside me shows how beautiful it is to meet new people. That fear inside me showed how brave I can be. That fear inside me showed how quickly I can make decisions. And that fear inside me showed how breathtaking it feels to find comfort in the world of uncomfortableness.

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The anxiety of creating a path:

Nowadays, getting anxious over things has become common. For instance, I was an introvert. I don’t love people entering my space. Beyond my comfort zone, there’s a monster that haunted me day and night whenever I tried to create a path on my own.

But this anxiety and the voice inside me made me feel comfortable and safe in my own space.

And, if you’re going through one of them or anything that stops you from moving forward, just follow these simple ones, and trust me: It really worked for me.

• Just give a name to your voice, which stops you from moving forward.

For instance, I named the voice, “Niruthu” -(Meaning stop in Tamil). So, whenever the voice blocks my mind, I would quickly say the name, and this practice led me to stop getting more anxious.

• Choose the present over the haunted story:

Most people love to hear or read a feel-good story. So, whenever you feel stuck, just look around and see the world. Because when you look at the world, it will help you to calm yourself, and even the slightest moment you see in that time, will make you feel great.

• Don’t drown deep into the ocean:

You see, whenever I see people, when they are in their saddest moments, they would just drown deep into the ocean of overthinking, and say, “I can’t come over,” or “I can’t get over.”

Look, you’re your best adviser and protector. So, whenever you feel down or stuck in the past, just look at the people. There will always be a soul that hears your unspoken words.

So, now instead of getting stuck, choose to open the cage. And, remember the cage is always open, and it’s you who has the power to command whether to live in or explore the outside world.

Here’s a little poem for you. And, let me be honest, I’m not a pro at writing poems.

Hearts are hard to decipher,

When it comes to emotions,

We choose,

Worry, misery, hate, misfortune,

Even if we have the power,

To choose happiness, love, and care.

And, the people still say,

“I can’t get over.”

What a funny way to live!

If it resonated with you, send it to the people who deserve to hear this. Because, at the end of the day, every heart whispers, “I cares too.”

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It’s one of the daily answers I hear whenever I question someone. And, in those times, I wanted to ask more.

Whenever we question, some people look at us as if we are an enemy. Just because I’m questioning people doesn’t mean I’m against it. I wanted to know the truth.

But they look at me as if I’m against something or look at me as some annoying kid.

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A friend of mine is an ambitious person. More like the rare soul who dares to bring the change. When I was with her in school, she did put everything into her to bring a change, but her family was against it, and here are the words she shared with me,

“You know, I thought I was always right, and I built my own world. Whenever I said to my family, “I’m doing this and that.”

They would simply respond, “Okay. Do it. We are here.”

But, I don’t know, at the time, they thought of me as a child who easily loses interest.

And, when the time came, I asked them that I’m going to travel, and this was my dream.

The answer I got is, “You can explore the world with your husband.”

When I questioned them, “Why should I get married if I can live alone?” They all saw me as ignorant, but no one saw my vision.

I was wrong to believe that just because I shared my vision with them, it doesn’t mean they want mine. They are just the passerby.”

Of course, in the end, she got hurt and was given a year to prove herself. And, she is working perfectly on her dream now.

Look, If she hadn’t asked the question to her parents, then she would be living a life without a soul. I don’t know what it means to you, but most of the people were forced to stop, from their dream.

But I felt, you should ask the question, even if it means hurting. Trust me, if they have every right to shut your mouth, then you have every right to question them.

Malala Yousfzai, by putting her life on the line, questioned and fought. And there are a lot of people like Socrates, Rosa Parks, who questioned and brought a change.

So next time when someone whispers, “Don’t ask.” Just smile and ask anyway. Because the future belongs to the ones who dare.

In the world that runs behind the crowds,

Stop and ask,

Because life dares the one who comes out,

And, be that one.

If it resonates with you, share it with the people who deserve this. Because, at the end of the day, every heart whispers, “I cares too”

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I got afraid, “What will they think if I say no? Will they hate me or curse me?” I’m pretty damn sure most of us used to think the same. But, after years, I choose to say no. When I did that, I didn’t feel a mountain over my head or get any traffic signals. Instead, I felt peaceful.

I decided to write about this because I don’t want you to feel the same way I did. Here are some tips on rejecting people’s offers without hurting them. Just think of a match where both of you win, and no one gets hurt.

Let’s begin:

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Put yourself first in their shoe:

Yes, you read it right. For instance, recently I was asked to complete a task within a day, which was totally not my work.

But I was hesitant to say no. So, instead of saying, “I can’t do.”

I thought for a moment and said, “Ok. But, just wanted to let you know that I have already been working on a project, and as the deadline for the work you asked me to do is tomorrow. Sorry, though I wanted to help you. I have a lot of work on my schedule. In the future, I will help you for sure.”

And, the person replied, “Okay. No worries. I can work on this.”

Just like that, no one got hurt. So, if you wanted to say no, then try to think and say it politely. People always love to hear you when you’re polite to others. Think about what makes people not get offended.

Offer an alternative:

Again, you read it right. Let’s say, if a person is your friend but not close. You know the difference between a stranger to a known one. Instead of feeling caught in the situation, just say something like, “I wish I could help you out right now. I’m not good at handling stuff, so I know a person who has a lot of experience. If it’s okay with you, I will connect them to you.” See, people feel great and agree with you if you’re honest with them.

Trust me, honesty and loyalty are the biggest asset, which has huge demand, but people are just afraid to show it.

Share the story within the circle:

Not many people want to say, “You know, I did a pile of work, just because I can’t say no.” Someone inside your circle feels the same. So, even if it’s a conversation, just share it with people. So that they know how to reject people’s offers.

This will really help them a lot.

Saying no can be the ultimate self-care. - Claudia Black

Reflect for a moment:

If saying no is important, then reflecting on your action is way more important. Have you used the correct words? Does anyone in the room feel hurt? (Not applicable to people who try to hurt you.)

My mindset when I can’t reject people’s offer. Of course, my mind alone speaks, not my mouth.😅

Well, now you’re good to go.

If you feel this is a worthwhile message, then send it to the one who needs to read this. Because, at the end of the day, every heart whispers, “I Cares Too”

Though I’m not a pro at writing poems. As a bonus, here’s a little poem for you.

In the tangled world,

I choose words as a key,

Not to hurt one,

But, to make them believe,

The rain doesn’t mean sad,

Nor the thunder call to scare.

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And, this question haunted me day and night. But when I saw people through words, I began to understand the true meaning between passion and career.

Here’s what Austin Kleon says, “A day job gives you money, a connection to the world, and a routine.”

Passion is something that drives us to stay in a job, no matter what they say about it. We do the work as long as we are satisfied with it.

Don’t confuse it. Of course, it takes time to decide what you truly love. Our hearts are restless creatures, always yearning for new experiences.

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You don’t have to pick one path. You can write your own song, or make people laugh through your stand-up comedy, or even be a silent observer in photography.

For instance, my friend is a data analyst, but she also loves drawing. So, she has an account where she shares her work. She had a great time with what she was doing, and she would always say, “Hey. You know? If I were to give up on doing sketches, then I would be an empty page. Thanks to that, I was able to calm myself, and it reminded me I was there for me.”

That’s the beauty of following multiple passions. Your interests may be all over the map, and that’s perfectly okay. You’ve the right to choose what fills your heart. You not only avoid the feeling of emptiness, but also get a feeling of genuine contentment.

And, speaking of passion, I’m not a pro at writing poems, but here’s mine.

If you are thinking of just flying,

Then you don’t know,

The silence of winds,

The warmth of the land,

And the happiness of trying new things.

If something resonates with you, share it with your loved one who deserves to read this. With that, I’m wishing you a wonderful day! Subscribe for free to unlock your heart’s whispers. Your support means the world to me.

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Hey,

How are you doing? Feeling stressed. Don’t worry, just look at the bright sky, despite the dark clouded thoughts, it still feels good. I know, you’re buried in chaos, yet you give a warm smile to others.

Let me remind you of something dear, you don’t have to figure it all out to be okay. So, take a breath. Calm your heart, and release the thoughts.

You’ve been strong for too long in silence, you’ve carried self-doubts with no end, and you’ve been tired of running away from expectations. But, you know what? after all this commotion, you choose to be kind, and you kept going, this is not weakness, dear— it’s grace, and power.

This season can be messy; you’re not lost in a dense forest, you’re searching, trying, and becoming your future version.

So, breathe deeply. Not to run away from the chaos, but to remind yourself that you need a space to restart again.

Hold out your hand when the world feels so far, and remember your loved ones will always be with you.

One day, when you look back, you’re path will be bloomed by flowers, and a softer, freer, and wiser version of you is waiting for you on the shore.

Until then, take your time, live in the moment, work for your dreams, be gentle, and don’t rush things.

Here’s a little poem for you,

Let the wind carry your worries,

Let the sun embrace you with warmth,

Let the river soothe your wandering thoughts,

And, to feel it all….. just breathe slowly.